Apparently that’s what Mr D and I are!
We are parents whose children have grown up and moved out of the family home to begin their lives. At first Mr D and I laughed at the prospect of it as we were seeing and talking to our children more after they moved out than when they lived here. B1 and B2 are now living their lives. We still talk to them both several times during the week and we often see B1 on the weekends however the change has happened.
They don’t rely on us for a lot anymore. Among other things they cook their own meals, grocery shop, do their own washing and pay their own bills (mostly). They don’t come with us if we go out to dinner with friends. They don’t come home after a day of school, cranky, tired and ready to eat the leg off a horse. And let’s not forget to mention the mono-syllabic responses to questions asked about their day. I no longer growl at them because I can’t see the floor in their rooms for the mess. I cook dinner for two now. We have leftovers now.
B1 turns 21 years next month and we have been going through the albums. Baby photos, photos of all of the firsts, school photos, family photos, Christmas, birthdays… It occurred to me how sad I feel about being an empty nester. I mean REALLY sad and I realised that I have been sad for a while.
It’s been a tough 5 months and it’s going to be tough for a little while yet. B1 has been moved out for quite a while now and is very happy in her flat in Canberra. The full impact of having no children living at home (I think) is not felt though until the last child (in our case, B2) has moved out. We moved B2 to Sydney to start his apprenticeship in November last year. I have been sad since then. Both children gone.
The end. Well not really the end. I have been considering my purpose in life. I do have a purpose, it’s just changed and I am in the adjustment phase. Mr D and I have also been working on the next part of the plan. Don’t get me wrong, we are still Parents, just Parents of adult children who don’t live here anymore. We will be okay, I will be okay. There are lots of empty nesters out there.
How did you cope with the experience? Hopefully better than I am. Mrs D xo